Think of the time when you were a child. You did what you wanted to, said what you wanted to and would just be yourself without fear of judgement. You existed without apology. You were the happiest person you knew.
Somewhere along the way, you grew up.
You learned the society you lived in had certain rules and to be accepted you had to follow the rules. You learned that skinny was the benchmark, that A+ was the best, that Harvard was the goal, that Gucci was the trend, that 17 was the age.
Your parents said you were a disappointment and shame. Your teacher said you would barely make it past high school. Your friends…well, the mere fact that they existed was enough to put you in a constant cycle of comparison.
The need for belonging and human connection is deeply embedded inside us humans. Since you wanted to be loved and accepted by others, you wanted to feel like you belonged, you began comparing yourself to others. You felt that you needed to live up to society’s standards and people’s expectations.
Somewhere along the way, you lost touch with yourself.
Now here you are questioning your existence, throwing pity parties, self-sabotaging, and feeling miserable because you are not good enough. You will never be good enough.
But the question is compared to whom?
Who is it that you’re comparing yourself to? Kylie Jenner? Oprah? That girl you had in high school who has 1 million followers on Instagram? His ex?
It never ends…
And that’s where the problem lies. You are comparing yourself to others who are completely different from you. They have different personalities, different goals in life, different values and different lifestyles.
Imagine this. You become that person you are constantly comparing yourself to. Finally. Some days later you will start comparing yourself to someone else, someone better. There will always be someone better. The cycle never ends…
What Happens When You Compare Yourself to Others?
- You underestimate yourself: Have you ever seen two different flowers? Do you see a lily withering away and shrinking just because it’s next to a rose which is a prettier flower? No. The lily blooms no matter who it’s next to because it knows it’s beautiful in its own way. Sure, a lot of people might compare it to the rose but that does not matter to the lily.
Similarly, when you compare yourself to others, you underestimate your beauty, your uniqueness, and your strengths.
- You lose confidence in your abilities: If you’re always thinking you are not as good enough as someone else, you never perform at your best. You start doubting yourself. You start second-guessing. And it shows.
- You ignore other people’s flaws and magnify your own: You forget that hot Instagram celebrity is always on drugs. You scroll past Rylie’s post about her depression and get hooked on her love life. You ignore the fact that Brenda has zero manners and compare your cellulite to her lean thighs. When you compare, you don’t compare rationally. You become irrational and miscalculate.
- You get stuck in a never-ending cycle: None of us is born complete. You may be good at one thing but suck at something else. You may have pretty hair but not a pretty mouth. You may excel at writing but suck at math (hey, that’s me). In your quest to be the best at everything, you will be stuck in a cycle of comparison and never be happy.
I know what you’re thinking right now. How do I stop comparing myself, Sadia? Well, the next part of this article will teach you how to stop comparing yourself to others based on psychology and my own experience.
1. Act Like the Miracle You Are
Do you know you could never be born?
Based on genetics, the chances of you being born are 1 in 400 trillion which means you could have been your uncle, your great grandmother, Hitler, Trump or even a tree or truck (who knows) but God decided to create you.
Yes, you. The you that is reading this right now. The you that is comparing herself to… who… Riley Reid? For the love of God, stop.
Get your shit together and start acting like the miracle you are!
2. Accept Yourself
Imagine walking into a store. You are looking to buy something really nice for your best friend’s birthday and the salesperson introduces you to a second copy of the thing you need. What goes through your mind? Cheap. Low quality. Not high-class. That’s not something you would gift to your best friend, right?
When you compare yourself, you are basically saying you would rather be a second copy of someone than you. Is that what you’re offering to the world? A second copy? You need to keep it classy!
Your genes (or DNA) combined to give you a unique set of physical features, traits, strengths, weaknesses, and talent that nobody in the world has. No one in 7 billion people in the world.
That’s a number!
Accept yourself for who are: your quirks, your passion, your style, your body, your humour, your looks. Admit that you have flaws, but you have strengths too, even if just one. Celebrate the one good part of you like it’s the best thing in the world. Stop looking for external validation. Stop comparing yourself to others!
3. Unfollow and Unfriend
Do you know smoking kills? Of course, you do. It’s everywhere in bold red with skeleton signs.
But do you know what kills more than smoking (if you ask me)? Social media.
It kills people’s confidence, self-esteem, relationships, mental health time and energy every day. Yet we spend hours on end scrolling social media, comparing ourselves to an unrealistic picture people paint of their lives.
The harsh truth: people only put the best parts of themselves out there.
Let that sink in.
Photoshopped and filtered photos, fairytale love lives, picture-perfect rooms, graduation photos with Harvard signboard in the backdrop- that’s what you see on social media.
What you don’t see is this: the loneliness and emptiness they feel while clicking photos, the heartbreaks, the stress that comes from pulling all-nighters and a real-life they need an escape from.
I know so many people who live picture-perfect lives on social media but are miserable when I get to know them.
My psychology professor once told me a story of a client who came into therapy. He was extremely handsome and she was blown away by his looks!. But do you know why he came into therapy? He thought he was ugly.
Now here’s your task: If you really want to stop comparing yourself to others, unfollow all social media accounts that trigger comparison in you. Only follow people who inspire you, motivate you or add something meaningful to your life.
Next, take a break from social media. Delete all your accounts for 7 days. Fill in this time with practicing a hobby, self-care, reading articles on Medium or watching TED talks.
Honestly, you owe yourself some respect.
4. Own Your Journey
The society that we live in constantly pressurizes us with deadlines and an arbitrary concept of milestones – find your first love at 17, get a scholarship and graduate by age 23, have a six-figure job by 24, get married by 26, own a nice house by the ocean by 30- and thousands of other superficial and bizarre, if not seemingly impossible tasks.
Soon you find yourself in a rat race chasing achievement, wealth, people and comparing yourself to those ahead of you. You start to believe there is a timeline you have to follow.
But you did not come into this world with a timeline. You didn’t even come with a roadmap. You came alone. You came here as the boss of your own life.
What you want to do with your life and by when is completely your choice. Set goals, break the rules and live by your own values. Get out of your comfort zone and take new challenges. Never stop learning.
Remember one day you are going to die. And that day nobody will celebrate the timeline you followed all your life but the person you were. The ways you touched people’s lives. The smiles you spread. The light you were.
Keep your head down and focus on yourself. Stop comparing your journey with others. Time is an abstract concept and numbers were invented by humans.
You are not running out of time. You are exactly where you need to be.
5. Focus on Being Inspired Instead of Comparing
When I was in school, I was always comparing myself to this girl in my class. She excelled in academics, had an amazing sense of humour and a charismatic personality. Compared to her I was the nerd of the class who people stayed away from like I was infected with measles or something.
The more I compared myself to her, the uglier, smaller and worthless I felt.
And no, I never stopped comparing myself to her.
But looking back, I would tell my younger self to use that girl as an inspiration instead of a standard of comparison. Genuinely admire the unique qualities she had- positivity, humour, wit, confidence- and use it as an inspiration to bring out the better parts of me.
Instead of sulking and rotting with jealousy, be yourself, take up space and exist without apology as she did.
To sum up, here are 5 ways to stop comparing yourself to others physically, emotionally and in other ways:
- Act like the miracle you are. You are 1 in 7 billion people.
- Accept yourself for who you are boldly and proudly
- Unfollow people on social media. Regularly do a social media detox
- Own your journey. You are exactly where you need to be
- Focus on being inspired instead of comparing
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THE SELF-CONFIDENCE FORMULA
Self Confidence is everything. In fact, if you don’t have it, your chances of finding serious success in any endeavor is going to be limited.
Now, we are not saying you can’t succeed without confidence. But, we are saying that it will be difficult to gain massive success without it. And massive success is the key word.
Don’t believe us? Try naming one extremely successful person who isn’t self-confident.
Exactly. We couldn’t come up with a name either.
What is Confidence?
Now, confidence isn’t the same as charisma. Too many people get the two mixed up. Charisma is when someone has a compelling attractiveness about them, a charm if you will, that allows them to typically inspire devotion in others. However, confidence on the other hand, is the deep knowing that you can do something. It is a calmness of mind that stems from having trust in your ability to do a certain thing well.
Of course people succeed all the time without having the charisma of Winston Churchill, Neil Patrick Harris, or Matthew McConaughey, but succeeding without confidence is a completely different story.
“One of the key factors of legendary success is to learn how to generate your own self-confidence.” – Robin SharmaTweet Quote
Without Confidence You Won’t Do This….
Here’s why. When you lack self-confidence, you essentially don’t believe in yourself. And when you don’t believe in yourself, you won’t take action.
Needless to say, the less action you take, the less likely you’ll be to run into opportunity. And without opportunity, you can’t really find success.
Why? Because success is never something that is given. Success is something that is always earned.
And success keeps her distance from those who don’t take action.
You can’t seize your moment, or take risks on those slivers of opportunity that rarely present themselves, if you are not taking action.
In short, we can’t succeed, we won’t succeed, without first having self-confidence.
If success requires anything…. above all else it requires action, and action requires self-confidence.
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Can You Teach Yourself Confidence?
The great news is, you can teach yourself how to be more confident. You can increase your confidence levels because confidence, much like a muscle, can be strengthened by use. And if you can teach yourself confidence, you can take more action. And if take more action, you can be become about as successful as you want to be.
More confidence will lead to more action, and more action will lead to more success.
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The Key to More Action
With that being said, we want to give you a powerful tool that will help you become more confident. We want to give you a key to taking more action, and from that action, the attainment of more success. This key, is called the self-confidence formula.
This self confidence formula is a simple tool that various members of our team still use daily to gain and maintain the confidence needed to crush our days.
This tool has been a big part of our morning routine for years now, and it has helped us strengthen our belief in our ability to do…. well, just about anything!
This formula that we use stems from Napoleon Hill’s classic book, ‘Think and Grow Rich’. If you haven’t read the book yet, then we highly recommend you read it [Click Here to Download for Free].
Of course, you don’t have to read the book before putting this effective confidence formula to work for you.
The formula is essentially a declaration that you read to yourself. It contains a handful of hidden affirmations (auto-suggestion) that will gradually work on your subconscious minds.
It is suggested that you read it aloud, with an open mind, and with faith that it can help fortify your confidence. It will require some faith on your part, but I can assure you, if you believe in it, it will work.
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So without further ado, below is your new highly effective confidence tool that you will be sure to benefit from. Here you go:
THE SELF-CONFIDENCE FORMULA
- I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my Definite Purpose in life. Therefore, I demand of myself persistent, continuous action towards its attainment, and I here and now promise to take such action.
- I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action and gradually transform themselves into physical reality. Therefore, I will concentrate my thoughts for 30 minutes daily upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, thereby creating in my mind a clear mental picture of that person.
- I know through the principle of autosuggestion that any desire I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of attaining the object. Therefore, I will devote 10 minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of self-confidence.
- I have clearly written down a description of my Definite Chief Aim in life. I will never stop trying until I have developed sufficient self-confidence for its attainment.
- I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and justice. Therefore, I will engage in no transaction that does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people. I will induce others to serve me because of my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness and cynicism by developing love for all humanity because I know that a negative attitude towards others can never bring me success. I will cause others to believe in me, because I will believe in them, and in myself. I will sign my name to this formula, commit it to memory and repeat it aloud once a day, with full faith that it will gradually influence my thoughts and actions so that I will become a self-reliant and successful person.
Related: Self-Confidence Affirmations
There you have it! A powerful and simple way to increase your confidence, and it’s free and available for you to use whenever you want.
Please don’t underestimate the power of this self-confidence formula.
Trust us when we say, it has the ability to level up your life. We promise you. But, you’ll have to have a little faith and apply it habitually.
To do so, consider reading this formula daily so that you make it habit to build your confidence. The changes it will make in how you feel will amaze you. But ever more amazing, will be how other begin to notice the shift in your presence.
Moreover, you’ll impress yourself by how much more daring you’ll be in your own life. Your new-found willingness to take more action, will undoubtedly open new doors for you.
It’s time to unleash that extremely confident titan residing deep down inside of you. Use this confidence formula to awaken that giant from its slumber! Your successful future-self, will thank you for it!
Till next time,
10 BEST WAYS TO STOP NEGATIVE SELF-TALK
When you woke up this morning, stumbled over to the mirror, and had a good long gander, what was the first thing you said to yourself? Did you give yourself a solid pep talk, remind yourself how awesome you are and think about all the ways you were going to crush it today? Probably not. You let that trash-talking peanut gallery in your head make you feel like you’re inadequate. Enough! If you’re going to take on the world and conquer it, you’ve got to know how to stop negative self-talk.
Negative self-talk is a symptom of something greater than just a lack of self-confidence. It can stem from years of not feeling support, an unending string of what we perceive to be failure, and an inability to see our potential. The roots of pervasive negativity can go all the way back to our childhood and manifest because we have unfinished business there, or it can be because we never developed a sense of resilience.
Overcoming negative self-talk isn’t merely an exercise in changing our mindset (although, that is a vital component for transformation), but a process which we have to be open to, so we can realize that on the other side of “I can’t” is an infinite world of “I absolutely can!”
You know that ol’ adage, “If we don’t respect ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to respect us?” The same goes for negative self-talk. We can’t lean on others to believe in us if we’re sitting in the back row doing an audit on our life instead of realizing that we are exceptional. So let’s dive in and learn some strategies to change our inner conversations and overcome negative self-talk for good.
HOW TO STOP NEGATIVE SELF-TALK
1. Call Your Critic By Name
Don’t roll your eyes, hear me out. You have been throwing shade at yourself for so long, you probably don’t even recognize when you’re being negative. That inner critic has latched onto you like a parasite and it’s time to set it free.
Give that critic a name, something funny. And every time you hear or catch yourself thinking something negative or critical, talk to your inner critic as if it were a person. Let it know it’s gunning for a break-up, and it’s just a matter of time.
If you feel comfortable enough, share the name of your inner critic with your friends and family so when they recognize you being negative, they can keep you accountable.
2. Talk it Out to Overcome Negative Self-Talk
Keeping with the theme of reaching out to friends and family, overcoming negative self-talk is a journey. It doesn’t happen overnight. And chances are, the ones closest to you (including your boss) have suffered alongside you. They are just as invested in your becoming a happier, more positive person as you are.
So when you feel yourself slipping into the doldrums, shoot a text to a trusted confidant and run those thoughts by them. If you’re mid-rant, telling yourself how useless you are, wouldn’t it be liberating to have someone chime in to tell you how smart, hardworking and kind you are?
Of course. It’s going to take a few battles to win the war, don’t be afraid to enlist the help of trusty troops.
3. If You Can’t Get Positive, Go Neutral
There is no pill for overcoming negative self-talk (though some may disagree). It takes work. Placing pressure on yourself to be all rainbows and sunshine right out of the gate only sets you up for failure, putting you in a headspace where negativity begets negativity.
Take baby steps. Start with very simple language changes. Swap out sentences like, “I can’t do this” or “this will never,” with phrases like, “I just need more time” and “maybe this can.”
This may seem trivial and ridiculous, but we’re talking about the power of language. Think about how destructive your language has been to you and your life. If you’re not ready to fully commit to complete transformation, let’s at least crack the door open, and explore some possibilities.
4. Stay in the Moment
Whew! This is a tough one, especially when one of your favourite things to do (subconsciously) is to focus on the absolute worst case scenario of everything in life. But unless you’ve discovered time travel, you have absolutely no idea what is going to happen.
Stop focusing on the “what if” and get your head in the game by being comfortable with the “right now.”
5. Get Off the Guilt Trip
Avid negative self-talkers love to pack their bags and head out on the most epic guilt trips. Guilt tripping lets you take inventory of every single minute thing that you didn’t get done, and then you get to revel in your failure to complete things. What about focusing on all the things you accomplished instead?
If you want to overcome negative self-talk, take 15 minutes out of your day every day and write down everything you accomplished. No detail is too small. From brushing your teeth, to closing a sale, to doing a load of laundry. You’re getting stuff done; you’re just too focused on what you feel like you should be doing.
6. Stop Pretending to Read Minds
Unless you’ve been side-gigging as a psychic, you have absolutely no idea what’s going on in someone else’s head. Read that again. If they haven’t told you, you have no idea what someone else is thinking.
So why are you creating negative dialogues about what they might be thinking about you? You need to stop attaching meaning to everything someone says to you, and stop fabricating stories that say bad things about you.
7. Surround Yourself With Positive People
Sure, opposites attract, but rarely do individuals who regularly engage in negative self-talk attract happy, positive people, and there’s good reason for that; happy people like to surround themselves with other happy people. If you exist in a circle of negativity outside of yourself, what hope do you have of making a transformation?
Make some social adjustments. If you’ve got family members who are enabling you or engage in negative self-talk, take a step back. Tell them you love them, but you need to make some changes for your mental well being.
8. Shift Your Perspective to Stop Negative Self-Talk
Pffft! Easier said than done, right? Sure, but totally worth a try. Take an inventory of your fears, your concerns, your challenges. Write them out, and read them back to yourself. Now write down why you think you’re incapable of overcoming these things.
Are they really so difficult? Are you asking yourself to climb Everest with no equipment next weekend? Are you being asked to solve world hunger by 2023? How dire are these issues you’re facing? You can absolutely push through whatever is holding you back from unleashing your potential.
9. Simplify Your Social Media Influences
Don’t panic, I’m not telling you to get off social media…completely. What I am asking you to do is to take a deep dive on who and what you are letting influence your inner dialogue on the social media landscape.
Are you following positive people and brands? Do you spend hours and hours disappearing down social media rabbit holes, only to come up for air feeling even less adequate than when you swiped into the app? Clear the decks! If you’re not following accounts that make you feel like a rock star, or share positive narratives, you do not need them in your life right now.
10. Become Someone Else’s Hype Person
Helping others makes us feel good. It gets those endorphins pumping. But it also has a sneaky way of making us feel better about ourselves, and we tend to hold our chins a little higher. Consider taking on a mentorship role to someone in your life.
It could be a friend starting a business or a colleague who needs some support in getting that next promotion. Engaging in supportive dialogue with someone we care about can retrain our brains into quieting our own inner critics.
Final Thoughts on Negative Self-Talk
Negative self-talk is akin to cancer. It can permeate every aspect of our life, impacting our career aspirations, family and friend dynamics, and relationships. The great news is, it’s not a permanent state of being, it’s a choice.
Like everything in life, anything worth having requires time, effort and dedication, but once you cross that threshold into living a more positive existence, everything gets easier from there on out. So, if you’re ready to overcome negative self-talk for good, put these tips to good use daily.
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100 INSPIRING COURAGE QUOTES TO HELP YOU FEEL COURAGEOUS
If you’re searching for some inspiring courage quotes then you’ll love this page. Before we dive into them however, know this…
We all need to look within and dig deep now and again, to remember that we have what it takes to live the life of our dreams. If that’s you, looking for that little nudge of encouragement, or help remembering that you can rise to the occasion, then you’ve come to the right place.
If you’re searching for quotes about courage, we’ve got them here. We’ve curated some of the most encouraging words on the importance of being brave, courageous, and fearless from some of the world’s greatest minds. Our hope is that they’ll give you the courage to unleash that inner bravery that will help you live your best life. So, without further ado, if you’re ready to dive into some of the most powerful courage quotes of all-time then let’s dive in:
100 Courage Quotes to Help You Unleash Your Inner Lion
1. “Fortune favors the bold.” – Virgil
2. “Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” – Andre Gide
3. “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” – Anais Nin
4. “Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.” – George A. Sheehan”
5. “To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.” – Soren Kierkegaard
6. “Courage is being scared to death…and saddling up anyway.” – John Wayne
7. “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
8. “He who is brave is free.” – Seneca
9. “Messenger boy: The Thessalonian you’re fighting, he’s the biggest man I’ve ever seen. I wouldn’t want to fight him. Achilles: That is why no one will remember your name.” – Troy
10. “Courage is fear holding on a minute longer” – George S. Patton
11. “If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life.” – Marcus Garvey
12. “Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.” – Babe Ruth
13. “There are two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.” – Buddha
14. “He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.” – Muhammad Ali
15. “In any given moment, we have two options: To step forward into growth or to step back into safety.” – Abraham Maslow
16. “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” – E.E. Cummings
17. “Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.” – C.S. Lewis
18. “Courage is knowing what not to fear.” – Plato
19. “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney
20. “The desire for safety stands against every great and noble enterprise.” – Tacitus
21. “It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.” – J.K. Rowling
22. “Courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace.” – Amelia Earhart
23. “Just as courage is the danger of life, so is fear its safeguard.” – Leonardo Da Vinci
24. “The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.” – Coco Chanel
25. “Courage is a love affair with the unknown.” – Osho
26. “From caring comes courage.” – Lao Tzu
27. “He is a man of courage who does not run away, but remains at his post and fights against the enemy.” – Socrates
28. “Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed we possessed.” – Dale Carnegie
29. “You will never do anything in this world without courage. It is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor.” – Aristotle
30. “The secret to happiness is freedom… And the secret to freedom is courage.” – Thucydides
31. “Courage is like love; it must have hope for nourishment.” – Napoleon Bonaparte
32. “Freedom is a system based on courage.” – Charles Peguy
33. “Courage is action, not talk.” – Jeff Rich
34. “Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius, and a lot of courage, to move in the opposite direction.” – Albert Einstein
35. “Valor grows by daring; fear by holding back.” – Publilius Syrus
36. “If you could get up the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed.” – David Viscott
37. “I have a lot of things to prove to myself. One is that I can live my life fearlessly.” – Oprah Winfrey
38. “Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.” – Seneca
39. “Courage conquers all things: it even gives strength to the body.” – Ovid
40. “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.” – Nelson Mandela
41. “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
42. “Courage is on display every day, and only the courageous wring the most out of life.” – Zig Ziglar
43. “You can’t test courage cautiously.” – Annie Dillard
44. “Courage is doing what you are afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you are scared.” – Eddie Rickenbacker
45. “What you are afraid to do is a clear indication of the next thing you need to do.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
46. “People don’t follow titles, they follow courage.” – William Wells Brown
47. “Without courage, wisdom bears no fruit.” – Baltasar Gracian
48. “Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.” – Bertrand Russell
49. “Trust the still, small voice that says, “ this might work and I’ll try it.” – Diane Mariechild
50. “The brave may not live forever, but the cautious don’t live at all.” – Ashley L
You’re more than halfway through these courage quotes, great job! We hope they are providing you with the inspiration and courage you’ll need to go after the life you want.
If you’re not 100% fired up yet, well, keep reading until you feel 100% belief in yourself. You got this, let’s go!
51. “The greatest test of courage on the earth is to bear defeat without losing heart.” – R.G. Ingersoll
52. “Creativity takes courage.” – Henri Matisse
53. “Fear is a reaction. Courage is a decision.” – Winston S. Churchill
54. “Do not be afraid I am with you.” – Isaiah 43:5
55. “Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy
56. “Great people do things before they’re ready. They do things before they know they can do it.” – Amy Poehler
57. “Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of courage and I promise you something great will come of it.” – We Bought A Zoo
58. “Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
59. “Courage is like a muscle. We strengthen it by use.” – Ruth Gordo
60. “One man with courage is a majority.” – Thomas Jefferson
61. “Life is too short to not be fearless for what you want.” – Nate Lee Morales
62. You can choose courage, or you can choose comfort, but you cannot choose both.” – Brene Brown
63. “Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quite voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.”
64. “Anything is possible if you’ve got enough nerve.” – J.K. Rowling
65. “Courage is resistance to fear, master of fear, not absence of fear.” – Mark Twain
66. “The best way out is always through.” – Robert Frost
67. “I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflections.” – Thomas Paine
68. “Fight hard when you are down; die hard—determine at least to do—and you won’t die at all.” – James H. West
69. “Never forget that no military leader has ever become great without audacity.” – Karl Von Clausewitz
70. “The devil whispers, “You can’t withstand the storm.” The Warrior replied, “I am the storm.” – Unknown
71. “To uncover your true potential, you must first find your own limits and then you have to have the courage to blow past them.” – Picabo Street
72. “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” – George Addair
73. “Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes.” – Maggie Kuhn
74. “We must build dikes of courage to hold back the flood of fear.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
75. “Live Dangerously and you live right.” – Goethe
76. “Life is being on the wire, everything else is just waiting.” – Karl Wallenda
77. “Courage is Grace Under Pressure” – Ernest Hemingway
78. “Success doesn’t come to you, you go to it.” – T. Scott Mcleod
79. “Glory gives herself only to those who have always dreamed of her.” – Charles de Gaul
80. “Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.” – Goethe
81. “Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.” – Raymond Lindquist
82. “Sometimes you don’t realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness.” – Susan Gale
83. “It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” – Theodore Roosevelt
84. “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” – Dale Carnegie
85. “Be Fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.” – Courage Quote
86. “Never say never, because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion.” – Michael Jordan
87. “Courage is looking fear right in the eye and saying, “Get the hell out of my way, I’ve got things to do.” – Unknown
88. “Sometimes the biggest act of courage is a small one.” – Lauren Raffo
89. “Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” – Winston Churchill
90. “Fate loves the fearless.” – James Russell Lowell
91. “One man scorned and covered with scars still strove with his last ounce of courage to reach the unreachable stars; and the world was better for this.” – Don Quixote
92. “Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.” – Dorothy Thompson
93. “Have the courage to act instead of react.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes
94. “He who has courage and faith will never perish in misery!” – Anne Frank
95. “The only person who never makes mistakes is the person who never does anything.” – Dennis Waitely
96. “Cowards die many deaths before their deaths, the valiant never taste of death but once.” – William Shakespeare
97. “Courage is contagious. When a brave man takes a stand, the spines of others are often stiffened.” – Billy Graham
98. “Courage is the standing army of the soul, which keeps it from conquest, pillage, and slavery.” – Henry Van Dyke
99. “To be successful we must do things that unsuccessful people do not want to do. Those things require levels of courage.” – R. Harpe
100. “Courage is the ladder on which all other virtues mount.” – Clare Booth Luce
Bonus Quote on Courage
We have one last addition to these courage quotes that we’d like to add. It is a courage quote that every student of success must never forget. Here it is, straight from the mouth of the ‘Dean of Personal Development’…
Final Words On Courage
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With that being said, we hope you’ll leverage these courageous thoughts and words of wisdom to start living the empowered and successful life you were meant to live.
Till next time,
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50+ SELF-ESTEEM QUOTES TO INSPIRE YOU TO REACH FOR THE STARS
Having high self-esteem and confidence is critical to living a high quality life, and these quotes about self-esteem and confidence can help. Without a strong sense of self and confidence in one’s abilities, life can be a struggle. Low self-esteem can impact your professional success, your relationship success, and whether or not your reach for the stars and the best life has to offer. Consequently, having a low self-esteem and lacking confidence can greatly impact how your life turns out in general.
So, considering how important having a high-self esteem is to living life to the fullest, we’ve pulled together these handful of quotes about self-esteem and confidence for you to use the next time you start doubting yourself and your self-worth.
Please use them to remind yourself that you are more capable and powerful then you know. Leverage them as encouragement to reach for the stars and unleash your potential into the world. So, without further ado, enjoy these top inspiring quotes about self-esteem and confidence:
BEST SELF-ESTEEM QUOTES FOR LOW-CONFIDENCE
1. “Give what you have. To someone, it may be better than you dare to think.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
2. “As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
3. “The greatest discovery of my generation, is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitude of mind.” – William James
4. “Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.” – Maxwell Maltz
5. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
6. “The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.” – Tony Robbins
7. “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
8. “To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.” – Denis Waitley
9. “If you don’t love yourself, nobody will. Not only that, you won’t be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self.” – Wayne Dyer
10. “It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.” – Sir Edmund Hillary
11. “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.” – Brené Brown
12. “When you have confidence, you have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things.” – Joe Namath
13. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
14. “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
– Dale Carnegie
15. “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller
16. “All confidence is acquired, developed. No one is born with confidence.” – David J. Schwartz
17. “Self-esteem is made up primarily of two things: feeling lovable and feeling capable.” – Jack Canfield
18. “Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.” – T. Harv Eker
19. “Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.” – Brian Tracy
20. “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” – William James
21. “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball
22. “Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” – Norman Vincent Peale
23. “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” – Kurt Cobain
24. “The strongest single factor in prosperity consciousness is self-esteem: believing you can do it, believing you deserve it, believing you will get it.” – Jerry Gillies
25. “The man who does not value himself, cannot value anything or anyone.” – Ayn Rand
26. “Respect yourself and others will respect you.” – Confucius
27. “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” – Thomas Carlyle
28. “Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.” – Judy Garland
29. “You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.” – Brené Brown
30. “Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.” – Anonymous
31. “Confidence is not “they will like me”. Confidence is “I’ll be fine if they don’t.” – Anonymous
32. “Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look.” – Marcus Aurelius
33. “In my mind, not just this year, always, I am always the best. And I am always going to say that.” – Cristiano Ronaldo
34. “If you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically engaged in becoming the person you don’t want to be.” – Dale Carnegie
35. “Someone else’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.” – Les Brown
36. “To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” – Robert Morley
37. “My self-esteem is high because I honor who I am.” – Louise Hay
38. “You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise Hay
39. “Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
40. “The only thing that matters in life, is your own opinion about yourself.” – Osho
41. “Only make decisions that support your self-image, self-esteem, and self-worth.” – Oprah Winfrey
42. “To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now.” – Alan Cohen
43. “One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.” – Michael J. Fox
44. “Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward.” – Roy Bennett
45. “Never bend your head. Hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.” – Helen Keller
46. “Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself.” – Robert Collier
47. “The most delightful surprise in life is to suddenly recognize your own worth.” – Maxwell Maltz
48. “Watch your thoughts. Every thought accepted as true is sent by your brain to your solar plexus — your abdominal brain — and is brought into your world as a reality.” – Joseph Murphy
49. “I used to hate feeling embarrassed, but then I realized nobody’s watching and nobody gives a damn.” – Barbara Corcoran
50. “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.” – Steve Jobs
51. “The self-image is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self-image and you change the personality and the behavior.” – Maxwell Maltz
Bonus Quote on Self-Esteem
Bonus: Alright, here’s our last and final self-esteem quote. We believe it packs a punch, and can be used as a catalyst to dive into conquering your confidence challenges for good. Enjoy:
One of our main goals here at The STRIVE is to help you believe that you have what it takes to be who you want to be, do what you want to do, so you can leverage that belief to strive to live the life you’ve always imagined for yourself.
And that’s where these self-esteem quotes come in, and what we love about them so much. Because quotes have the ability to uplift and inspire the reader. And in the case of these quotes about self-esteem and confidence in particular, we hope they succeeded in encouraging you to believe in yourself. But most importantly, we hope these quotes help you realize deep down, that you do have a lot to offer this world, and that you have what it takes to shoot for the stars.
With that being said, we believe in you, but what matters most is that you believe in you, and that is a feat that is entirely up to you.
So, till you reach your aims,
PS – If you enjoyed these self-esteem quotes, then you’ll love these trust yourself quotes!
35+ FEARLESS QUOTES TO HELP YOU BE FEARLESS AND LIVE BOLDLY
Being fearless is not about never being afraid. It’s about feeling the fear, and diving in anyway. Fearlessness is oftentimes about being scared to death, but still saddling up to take on whatever beast or challenge that lies ahead of you. And because sometimes, filling our minds with a few strong quotes related to being fearless can embolden us to do what we must, we’re publishing these handful of fearless quotes for you.
So, if you’re seeking some inspiring words to help you be more fearless, then this page is for you. We’ve rounded up the most powerful fearless quotes to give you the courage to stand tall, take more risks, and never back down.
With that being said, if you’re ready for some encouraging words to help you become fearless, let’s dive in:
BEST FEARLESS QUOTES
1. “To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” – Elbert Hubbard
2. “The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.” – Moliere
3. “I’m not afraid of dying, I’m afraid of not trying.” – Jay Z
4. “The important thing is not being afraid to take a chance. Remember, the greatest failure is to not try. Once you find something you love to do, be the best at doing it.” – Debbi Fields
5. “When there is no peril in the fight there is no glory in the triumph.” – Pierre Cornielle
6. “If you never want to be criticized, for goodness’ sake don’t do anything new.” – Jeff Bezos
7. “Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there’s something inside you that’s greater than any obstacle.” – C.D. Larson
8. “One finds limits by pushing them.” – Herbert Simon
9. “Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.” – Benjamin Disraeli
10. “The arch enemy of mankind, is FEAR.” – Napoleon Hill
11. “There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long range risks of comfortable inaction.” – JFK
12. “Without dreams, there can be no courage. And without courage, there can be no action.” – Wim Wenders
13. “Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.” – Wayne Dyer
14. “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho
15. “Fear, much like resistance, is nothing but the human motive of aversion.” – The STRIVE
16. “Failure is an option here. If things are not failing, you are not innovating enough.” – Cher
17. “The beautiful thing about fear is that when you run to it.. it runs away.” – Robin Sharma
18. “Fear kills more dreams that failure ever will.” – Anonymous
19. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.” – Mary Anne Radmache
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20. “Your largest fear, carries you greatest growth.” – James Allen
21. “If something is important enough, even if the odds are against you, you should still do it.” – Elon Musk
22. “Don’t let the fear of what could happen make nothing happen.” – Anonymous
23. “A ship is safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are for.” – William G.T. Shedd
24. “Cultivate a fearless approach to life, attack everything with boldness and energy.” – Robert Greene
25. “To escape fear, you have to go through it, not around it.” – Richie Norton
26. “Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
27. “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.” – Mark Twain
28. “Freedom lies in being bold.” – Robert Frost
29. “Before you can become a millionaire, you must learn to think like one. You must learn how to motivate yourself to counter fear with courage.” – Thomas J. Stanley
30. “Fate loves the fearless.” – James Russell Lowell
31. “The more you are motivated by love; The more fearless and free your action will be.” – Dalai Lama
32. “Once you become fearless, life becomes limitless.” – Anonymous
33. “Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.” – Roy T. Bennet
34. “Eighty percent of success is showing up.” – Woody Allen
35. “Limits, like fears, are often just an illusion.” – Michael Jordan
36. “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” – Anais Nin
37. “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho
38. “The most effective way to do it, is to do it.” – Amelia Earhart
39. “Fearlessness is the first requisite of spirituality. Cowards can never be moral.” – Mahatma Gandhi
40. “There is no illusion greater that fear.” – Lao Tzu
41. “Regret is the heritage of people who choose to live a fear-driven life.” – Taneka Rubin
42. “The eagle has no fear of adversity. We need to be like the eagle and have a fearless spirit of a conqueror!” – Joyce Meyer
43. “Being fearless isn’t being 100% not fearful, it’s being terrified but you jump anyway.” – Taylor Swift
44. “FEAR has two meanings: ‘Forget Everything And Run’ or ‘Face Everything And Rise.’ The choice is yours.” – Zig Ziglar
45. “We grow fearless by walking into our fears.” – Robin Sharma
46. “To many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les Brown
47. “Let fear be a counselor and not a jailer.” – Tony Robbins
48. “Fears, even the most basic ones, can totally destroy your ambitions. Fear, if left unchecked, can destroy our lives. Fear is one of the many enemies lurking inside of us.” – Jim Rohn
49. “The key to success is to start before you’re ready.” – Marie Forleo
50. “Life begins where fear ends.” – Osho
51. “Courage above all things, is the first quality of a warrior.” – Karl von Clausewitz
52. “Fears are a kind of prison that confines you within a limited range of action. The less you fear, the more power you will have and the more fully you will live.” – 50 cent
53. “Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and express what we really are.” – Don Miguel Ruiz
54. “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” – Jack Canfield
55. “Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers, but to be fearless in facing them.” – Rabindranath Tagor
Bonus Fearless Quote
Bonus: Alright, here is one last bonus quote that we think deserves special attention. We hope it inspires you as much as it inspires us. Here you go:
There you have it friends, some of the best fearless quotes to help you conquer the timidity that would keep you from living your greatest life.
May these handful of fearless quotes serve you well, as you strive to reach your goals and unleash your potential
Till you reach your aims, Go Fearless, and…
HOW TO START BELIEVING IN YOURSELF AGAIN: 7 BEST WAYS TO START TODAY
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How do I start believing in myself?” then this article is for you. We know everyone falls into a rut sometimes where we don’t have as much belief in ourselves as we used to. We know everyone, from time to time experiences those days where our self-confidence somehow gets thrown out the door, leaving us feeling uncertain and unsure of ourselves. The good news is, we have a few great tips to help you find out how to start believing in yourself again.
There is no doubt that lacking self belief can leave you struggling to find your way through life with little hope for significant change. In short, not believing in yourself can make the future look bleak. Fortunately, you can find your way back to a more confident and assured you, if you try. And you can do it today!
So, what happens when you start believing in yourself? Well, you’ll start having more hope for starters. And with more hope, you’ll be more inclined to take action. And with every action you take to build yourself up, and create a better future for yourself, your confidence and belief in yourself will grow.
So, let’s get you started on this journey of reclaiming your self, and with it, your future. Just follow these seven steps. They’ll show you how you can start believing in yourself again, and help you feel like you’re on top of the world again.
7 Best Ways to Start Believing in Yourself
1. Practice Loving Yourself
Believe it or not, self-love leads to self belief. It’s extremely difficult to gain faith in yourself if you don’t love the person that you are on the inside. You have to find confidence in yourself. This means loving the person you see in the mirror every single day for all of their good and bad qualities.
So, ignore any of those small pesky voices that try to put you down or say that you are less than you are. Keep your chin up, and never forget that you have a purpose and that your life matters.
But ultimately the, main thing to take away from this step, is to realize that you are unique, invaluable, and loved by others. And if others can love you, you can love you. That said, once you find a way to truly love yourself, you can then take the first step towards believing in yourself.
2. Realize All Personal Failure Is Not Your Fault
The affairs of the world has made many people feel as if they were lost in a tornado. People’s lives have been turned upside down both professionally and personally. Some people have lost their jobs, while others their house, family, etc…
Hardship and failure abounds, but in all reality, often times failure is not your fault. Some of the most prepared and successful people fail.
So, figure out the difference between the times failure might have been your fault and the times when everything was out of your control. Do this, and you’ll slowly begin to see your worth. You’ll realize that you can move forward once you understand failure happens.
You may even come to the realization that failure can be a stepping stone to something greater. And that it can in fact be exactly what you need to get you to your next level in life.
3. Treat Yourself The Way You Treat Others
It is easier to start believing in yourself when you begin treating yourself the way you treat others. Think about it, you wouldn’t usually tell others they are worthless and a failure, right? No, of course you wouldn’t because you believe in those people you respect and love around you. You are patient with them. And you’re willing to lend a hand and help them up when life is tough.
So, do the same for yourself. Give yourself the opportunity to talk and be open just as you do those around you. The way you treat yourself is a direct link to your feelings. If you give yourself positive affirmations, you’ll feel happy and lifted up.
However, on the flipside, if you continually tell yourself that you’re worthless, you’ll feel sad and slightly depressed. So be sure you take care of yourself the way you would take care of your best friend.
4. Feed Your Spirit
It’s important to feed your spirit and mind with positive things. Be careful what you watch on television and what you read each day. Feed your mind with interesting and positive topics.
Ask respected colleagues about the great things they’ve done in their life. Ask them how self belief lead them to become the person they are today.
Seek out inspiration in quotes and documentaries. Read about topics that will help you figure out your next steps in life. Read about facing your fears and being confident.
All of these things may seem small, but they will make a difference to your mind and spirit. And if you do them long enough and often enough, you’ll essentially be able to rewire your brain to be confident, which will in turn help you believe in yourself more.
5. Take A Step Forward
When life knocks you down, get up and don’t look back. It’s crucial that you practice self love by moving forward. You may feel like giving up or just staying down in the dirt.
But you don’t want to stay down too long, because you will eventually begin to doubt yourself if you stay down long enough. So pull yourself up by your bootstraps and move forward.
Don’t think about looking back because you may get stuck staring at the past. You’ll start to wonder about things you could have done differently.
If you want to start believing in yourself again, you’ll have to live in the present and look towards the future. So, consider brainstorming the best possible outcomes in your life, and then start taking steps in the direction towards your desired outcome. And it doesn’t matter how small the step is either, just take one step one at a time.
If you to this, one day you’ll notice how far you’ve come, and those days will be a distant memory.
6. Know You Choose Your Reactions
Start believing in yourself by knowing you are in charge of your reality. You do this by deciding how you react to good or bad news. Now, we understand that you might not be able to change the things happening to you, but you can change the way you react to them.
Yes, you might be angry and confused when you lose your job or a loved one passes away. But there is nothing you can do to change those types of outcomes. The only thing you can do is control the way you handle the situation.
You determine the positive outcomes of negative things because of the way you react. Those lacking self belief get stuck in the negative outcomes. They don’t try to find a way out because they’re scared to face their own reality. It might be tough, but you can face anything with a positive mind.
7. Accept That You Are Not Perfect
It’s hard for many people to understand that they aren’t perfect. Social media makes it seem like so many people are leading these amazing lives. We think we must be positive and happy or we are worthless. This isn’t true.
Sometimes there are positive people that have tough lives. This is because they accept the pain. They know life is going to be tough at times. They know they endless optimism won’t make life easier, but it will help them handle the harder things and move forward. It’s okay to accept the pain and anguish in life.
The trick is to be honest about it. The trick is to forgive yourself for the pain in your life. Understand that sometimes you are going to be negative, and that’s okay. As long as it does not take over your self worth, you can feel the pain at times. Embrace the imperfect times then let them go.
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Bonus Tip To Help You Start Believing In Yourself
This last tip is related to correcting the issue by taking back control of your mind with force. A lot of the times, we don’t believe in ourselves because of alot of negative self-talk that we have going on in our minds. But, that negative chatter can be silenced with affirmations, especially if they are affirmations for help you improve your confidence.
So, if you’ve tried all the steps above, and you still find yourself wondering “How do I start believing in myself?” then you absolutely should give affirmations a try. Use these confidence affirmations, they’re a good place to start.
Self belief is something that isn’t created overnight. You might work years on yourself to boost your confidence and self worth. Just know that you are unique and the effort put forth will be worth the fight.
Give yourself the love you deserve by taking it a day at a time. It’s time to be your own best friend. And you can start by taking the first step and give yourself a few compliments today. Without a doubt, if you do this one little thing, you’ll start feeling better and you’ll usher in a more self-trusting and positive chapter in your life.
Till next time,
PS – If you enjoyed this post on how to start believing in yourself, then you’ll love this article on dealing with self-doubt.
20 BEST BOOKS ON CONFIDENCE TO SKYROCKET YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
Self-confidence is a key component of success. In fact, the lack of self-confidence is something many people point to when they feel like they aren’t succeeding in their relationships, career, or at life in general. It’s for this reason that I felt compelled to create this particular post on self confidence books.
Because let’s admit it. At one time or another we’ve all blamed ourselves and our lack of confidence for why something didn’t go as planned in our life.
It could have been that date that didn’t go so well, the botched job interview, or even that business deal that fell through. Whatever the case may be, most of the time it was a lack of confidence that was the culprit.
We say to ourselves, “I just don’t have enough confidence.”
But that’s not true. It’s not true, because confidence is not something you have, rather, it is something you create.
CONFIDENCE IS A CHOICE
Confidence is a state of mind, a feeling, and a way of being that can be created at will. So, in a way, it’s a choice.
When you come to understand this, you’ll be able to turn on your confidence at a moment’s notice. And when you know how to do this, you’ll start finding more of the success you seek.
Now I can tell you this truth over and over again until I am blue in the face, but, it will never be real to you until you’ve deeply ingrained this fact into your own mind.
And the best way to ingrain this fact into your own mind, is to become a student of confidence. Now you don’t have to sign up for college courses to become a student of confidence.
To become a student of confidence all you have to do is… read. You must read and study books on the subject of confidence.
Simple right? So where should you start?
Start with this list. I’ve pulled together a list of the best books on building self-confidence that I’ve ever come across. No doubt, there are hundreds of books on confidence, but let’s be honest, who (aside from Ph.D. students) has the time to read hundreds of books on a single topic?
Exactly, hardly anyone!
So, if you want to master confidence and improve your self-esteem, just read a handful of the following books recommended on confidence and you should be good to go. You don’t have to read hundreds of books on confidence to learn the fundamentals. Trust me, this handful of books will do the trick.
Every book provides something different, yet, every single one also confirms what I just said…
Which is, that how confident you become is completely up to you, because confidence is all in your head.
So, behold the 20 Books you must read if you ever wish to master self-confidence:
20 Best Books on Building Self-Confidence
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1. Feel The Fear and Do it Anyway
‘Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway’ is a classic book by the late Dr. Susan Jeffers. In this book, Susan Jeffers offers up solid advice for overcoming the paralysis and inaction that stems from being fearful and lacking confidence. Susan Jeffers pulls her knowledge from many years of research, and lecturing on the topic of transforming fear, indecision, and even anger into power, action, and extreme confidence.
The book contains a handful of practical insights and exercises that you can immediately implement to help you come to the realization that confidence is something to be nurtured and cultivated, much like a muscle.
This book is both an eye-opener and a solid book to begin with on your journey towards building your confidence.
2. How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
Fear, doubt, and worry can be debilitating. Possessing just one of these problems can indeed stop the best of us from reaching the heights of success we seek. How so? Because fear and doubt kills self-confidence. And if success demands anything, it demands self-confidence.
This book is comprised of many recipes Mr. Carnegie pulled together from night classes he would teach to adult students on how to overcome worry.
‘How to Start Worrying and Start Living’ is a cure for anyone who wishes to eliminate the debilitating effects of fear and worry from their lives, so they fortify their confidence and get on with succeeding in their life.
3. Unstoppable Confidence
This book touches on NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) to help you get out of your comfort zone and master your self-confidence. If you are unfamiliar with NLP, it is basically a scientific approach to communication, personal development, and psychotherapy that delivers practical ways in which you can change the way you think, view past events, and approach your life.
Much of this book uses ideas and concepts that Tony Robbins suggests for improving self-confidence, and they’ll work for you too. ‘Unstoppable Confidence’ can teach you how to harness confidence levels that will make you, well…unstoppable.
4. Think and Grow Rich
‘Think and Grow Rich’ is so much more than a confidence book, it is a success book. However, the author, Napoleon Hill, understood that success requires a strong foundation built on self-confidence.
As such, the book provides a handful of potent insights and formulas that can help you gain the confidence you’ll need to start growing more successful, and yes even richer in your life.
This book is a must read for every person. If you practice his self-confidence formula alone, you can dramatically improve your confidence in no time at all.
5. How to Talk to Anyone
Many people are confident in just about everything they do. But for some people, when it comes to talking to people, they clam up, get anxious, and come across as less than self-assured.
If you’ve ever felt a lack of confidence when communicating with colleagues, strangers, or the opposite sex, this book can help you with crushing those feelings of uncertainty. Not only does this book educate on the nuances of confidence, but it gives you practical and effective tactics that you can employ immediately that will make you appear poised and self-assured, even if you’re not 100% there mentally. In other words, this book will help you fake it till you make it.
Having confidence when speaking with people is one of the most important skills you could acquire for successfully navigating your way to the top of your career. So, if you know your confidence lacks in the ‘people department’ then you must read this book.
6. The Magic of Thinking Big
In this book, Dr. Schwartz touches on many key areas that we all need to improve on to start succeeding in life. Much of the book revolves around improving how you think about situations, people, and your future. It deals with how to improve you attitude and perspectives, which in turn will help you to start taking the action necessary to reach your BIG goals.
Chapters 3 ‘Build Confidence and Destroy Fear’, Chapter 10 ‘Get the Action Habit’, Chapter 11 ‘How to Turn Defeat into Victory’, and Chapter 13 ‘How to Think Like a Leader’ are the most effective chapters for building your self-confidence.
All in all, this is one of my favorite self confidence books, and its probably the one confidence building book you can’t afford to miss.
7. How to Develop Self-Confidence and Influence People by Public Speaking
Dale Carnegie has created the perfect toolset for helping people dial into their confidence at will. This book contains multiple confidence boosting tips that will help you acquire poise, increase your memory, improve the delivery of your message, and appear more charming to everyone you interact with.
This book was created to teach people how to overcome their fears of public speaking; however, the strategies he provides to help you increase your confidence to speak in front of large audiences can also be applied towards overcoming other confidence issues in other areas of your life.
How you ask? Because when you master public speaking, you simultaneously wipe out your timidity and gain the courage and assurance to deal with people. In short, confidence gained in one department will help you gain the confidence you may need in others.
8. You Are a Badass
‘You Are a Badass’ by Jen Sincero, is not specifically geared towards improving confidence; however, it covers a wide range of self-improvement topics that when combined, can help you strengthen your over all sense of self, and with that, your confidence.
Within the book there is a chapter specifically for confidence, titled, ‘Fear Is For Suckers’. This chapter provides some great perspectives on fear and confidence that can help you significantly boost your confidence.
Amy Cuddy is the famous TED talk professor who first acquainted us with power poses and using our physiology to increase our confidence levels.
Well, she helps deliver a similar message in this book, and she does it with detail and backs it all up with solid research.
When you read this book, be prepared to learn about the power of your personal story, how to overcome impostor syndrome, and how to utilize you posture to level up your confidence.
As a student of confidence, this is one book you won’t want to miss.
10. The Confidence Gap
This book is a great confidence book to compliment the others already mentioned. This book does what it says, it fills the confidence gap.
How does it do this? Well, it does this by giving the readers a different perspective on dealing with their confidence or lack thereof. Russ Harris offers a novel solution to confidence by encouraging you to form a different relationship with your confidence, instead of trying to force yourself to overcome your confidence limitations.
In this book you will learn about the power of mindfulness and some techniques for keeping your negative thoughts and feelings at bay so your confidence levels can soar.
This book is certainly worth the read and it will truly help fill some of the confidence gaps we all face.
11. The Power of Self-Confidence
Brian Tracy is a seasoned sales/business guru who knows a thing or two about success. Truth is, it is hard to lose with Brian Tracy in your corner. He’s pushed out countless resources ranging from self-discipline, to time-management, to self-confidence.
And in just about all of his resources, you’ll hear him mention the importance of your inner-game, of your mindset and how you feel about yourself.
Without a doubt, this book will help you understand why it is so essential to have faith in your abilities and believe in yourself.
Read this book and build the unshakable confidence you know deep down in your heart you are capable of wielding.
12. The Art of Extraordinary Confidence
Comfort is the kiss of death to success. And in this book, you will learn why.
As such, you’ll find plenty of admonishments in this book to step outside of your comfort zone, and in so doing, dramatically strengthen your confidence levels.
If you are okay with real-talk, truth, and zero punches being pulled, you will enjoy this book. Beware though, this is not a PG book. It will speak to you as an adult, so be prepared for a good push.
13. The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
This book will wake you up to what true confidence is all about. Author, Nathaniel Branden provides firm answers to questions we all have related to our confidence and self-esteem.
If you’re looking for answers, you’ll find them here. You’ll learn what self-esteem really is, you’ll learn why it is so important to cultivate it, how you can increase your own self-esteem levels, and what role our external environment (other people) plays in our confidence levels.
Without a doubt, you’ll be sure to find many ‘Aha!’ moments in this book, and a solid foundation to building up your self-esteem, and with it, your confidence.
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14. Unleash The Warrior Within
‘Unleash The Warrior Within’ is authored by former Navy SEAL Richard Machowicz. And as you’d suspect, he provides tons of confidence boosting strategies that he acquired from his time in the military.
Richard has you break down your fears into smaller, bite sized components, making them much easier to attack. He also spends time educating his readers on the importance of mindset.
As a fan of the warrior ethos, I enjoy how the author combats those areas of our lives that can hold us back and keep us from doing what we need to do most to achieve our goals. If you want more confidence, read this book, you can’t go wrong.
Don’t let the name of this book scare you. It may sound daunting and super scientific, but rest assured that the material contained within it will be easy to digest and better yet, easy to implement towards building up your self-confidence.
The author of the book, Maxwell Maltz holds a Ph.D. and lays out his years of his experience and observation on how powerful self-image is when it comes to helping us achieve the results we are after.
You’ll learn about the power of perception, self-esteem, and how large a role our self-image can play in our ability to achieve. In addition to this, you’ll learn some powerful strategies you can employ to immediately and positively impact your confidence levels. So, If you’re looking for a time tested book on confidence that is based in science, this is a book everyone should read.
16. The Power of Positive Thinking
I know what your thinking, what does positive thinking have to do with Confidence. But here me out. This book, with out a doubt belongs in this selection of the best books on confidence because of the wisdom provided chapter after chapter by the late great Norman Vincent Peale specifically for helping its readers lead a more positive and confident life.
Now, just as a heads up, the wisdom provided in this great book does have religious undertones too them; however, this is exactly where much of the power of this book comes in to play. So, if you are not religious, or don’t care for biblical references you can skip this book and read all the others, BUT, I assure you, you’ll be cutting yourself short if you do so. If you’ve read all the confidence books in the world, and yet you still feel like you are coming up short in the confidence department, well then you’ll definitely want to invest in this book. It WILL help your conquer your confidence and self-esteem challenges and instill in you the faith to conquer your internal/external fears.
17. Negative Self-Talk and How to Change It
This is a great book to add to your library of books that can help you boost your confidence levels. The premise of the books revolves around what negative self-talk is, why you should work to minimize the amount of it you do, and how to go about doing so.
It really is a great tool/book to consider for helping you build your confidence because of the important role our self-talk plays in how we feel about ourselves. Essentially, lots of negative self-talk leads to feeling less confident and less negative self-talk essentially leads to feeling more confident.
As such, this is a worthy book to own to help you get a handle on your negative inner voice, and as a result, positively improve your confidence levels.
18. The 5 Second Rule
Mel Robbins brings a whole new definition to confidence in this book. She’ll help dispel the myth the confidence is merely a lack of belief in yourself, but rather, it’s the willingness or unwillingness to try.
Without a doubt, you’ll walk away from this book realizing that confidence is related to action. And you’ll begin to realize that confidence doesn’t start with belief, but rather, confidence starts with action. And since Mel’s book is primarily about action, we could not deny adding her book to our invaluable list of books on confidence.
So, use this book to push yourself to be better than your excuses and bigger than your fears.
19. Daring Greatly
Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly is the wake up call we all need. She doesn’t pull any punches and definitely tells it like it is in this book. Which is why it made the cut for our no B.S. list of self-confidence books. The biggest take away you’ll get from this book is that it is okay to be vulnerable. Her book provides a great combination of solid research and casual storytelling that will help you ease into being more being more vulnerable. And the more vulnerable you allow yourself to be, the more confident you’ll become as you come to realize you can handle whatever it is life is happening to throw your way.
So, if you’re looking for a book to dare you to step outside of your comfort zone, to be bigger than your anxieties, and to get you living and leading more confidently, then this book is a must read.
20. Never Finished
This last book is not your typical confidence book. It doesn’t give you tips or strategies to specifically zero-in on your confidence. In fact, Goggins states it himself in the book, it’s not a self-help book. But, what this book does do, is it helps you reframe your thinking.
‘Never Finished’ provides insight after insight to help you see yourself in a different light. It also includes stories that demonstrate that you are more than you are, and that you can do more than you’ve done. All in all, the lessons within this book will improve your mental strength and ultimately help you become aware of your true potential.
So give this book a read if you’re serious about building up your confidence, because there’s nothing more confident than a mentally strong person who believes in their abilities and their limitless potential.
Bonus Confidence Resource
‘Go Fearless’ is a synthesis of the best confidence building strategies from many of the self confidence books just mentioned. After going from outgoing and confident to feeling shy and withdrawn for many years, I set out to re-discover the confidence and fearlessness I had in my youth. After learning how to bounce back into the outgoing and confident person I knew I was capable of being, I decided to share what I learned.
This resource does not waste your time with drawn out stories or background, it gives you exactly what you need to know, NOW, so you can get started on building your confidence ASAP.
If there were ever a shortcut to learning how to master self-confidence, this would be it. It’s a confidence building tool, and a true call to action. And the best thing about it, is it’s free.
So, if you’re looking for a no B.S. guide to help you start living your life with confidence, go read this free resource and ‘Become Fearless’! Your future self will thank you for it.
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Final Words on These Self Confidence Books
There you have it, the 20 best books you can read to get started on mastering the one thing that can make all the difference in how much success you’ll find in your life; confidence.
After you’ve read these books for self-confidence, you’ll realize that having a sense of confidence is nothing but a sense of power within yourself, a sense of certainty that you can pull off just about anything.
Read this collection of the best books on confidence and you’ll surely gain the understanding and awareness that you actually have power to create a more confident you at any moment in time.
Till you reach your aims,
PS – If you’ve enjoyed this collection of confidence books, then you’ll most likely also enjoy this piece on ‘The 7 Ways to Gain Instant Confidence’.
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